What Is Divorce Mediation and How Can It Help Me?

Posted by Gordon Shayne | Apr 06, 2016 | 0 Comments

I want to talk to you about mediation and what mediation is, and how important mediation is in your case.

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I want to talk to you about mediation and what mediation is, and how important mediation is in your case. Mediation is an informal proceeding in which the mediator is someone who is qualified and has a certain number of hours that they've taken in the mediation process. In mediation, usually what happens is the mediator, who is a neutral third party, who doesn't know anything about your case, is going to go between two different conference rooms. The conference room where mother may be, or wife, and the conference room where father or husband may be. And each one of the parties will have their lawyers present in those separate conference rooms.

Mediation is confidential, so it's not taped and recorded. And in the mediation process the parties will have an opportunity to discuss with the mediator what they feel the legal issues and the outcomes that they want should be discussed. And the mediator will carry that information back and forth between the two rooms. There are certain things that you can do to be fully prepared of mediation. It's always been my practice that before mediation, the client comes in and we have a legal strategy meeting to discuss what we want to see as an outcome. So if you're going to mediate a typical divorce case where there are children, then you're going to be discussing all of the financial aspects of your case, property, debts, house, cars, those kinds of things.

And then on top of it, you're going to be expected to mediate a parenting plan. A parenting plan that's going to discuss how the parents are going to co-parent and share custody, visitation, holidays and decision making with the children. So there's a lot of things that you can do to make sure that mediation is as powerful as you want it to be. And my message is always the same to my clients, that mediation represents your last best opportunity to resolve your case in a amicable or friendly manner, before you get to a judge. Because by the time you get to a judge, it's too late. You can't negotiate with the judge. A judge is there to hear the case and make a decision.

So mediation is a very important proceeding in our family law courts. And many of our family law mediators will reduce a mediation agreement to writing. That means you'll have an agreement from that moment that you reach an agreement in mediation. And you can avoid a costly, time consuming hearing in front of a judge when you reach an agreement in mediation.

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Gordon Shayne

Gordon N. Shayne Family Law / Divorce Lawyer Phone: (904) 544-6855 Gordon N. Shayne's field of practice is devoted to Family Law/Divorce case throughout the State of Florida


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