It is a usual scene in any trial—you will see respondents sobbing uncontrollably as they recount the events that lead to the case. In some occasions, a client may burst in a fit of rage after hearing a verdict opposite of what they were expecting.
There is nothing wrong with expressing your emotions, but you have to understand that they can get in the way. Sometimes, emotions affect the way a respondent delivers his statement. In other cases, unchecked feelings can cause negotiations to become more difficult than they already are. Things get harder if you are dealing with cases that involve kids, such as battle over custody or stepparent adoption.
You need to keep your emotions in check despite their validity and justifiability; it is important to respect yourself and the court. Here are some things to keep in mind:
Condition Your Mind
You need to come to the court emotionally prepared. This means your mind needs some conditioning. To do this, you need to understand the ordeal and all that it entails. Think about it deeply and figure out the strengths and weak spots just as well.
Keep your cool if you believe that something is amiss while the trial is ongoing. Believe in the impartiality of the court and wait until the arguments and relevant items are presented. Remember, the court comes up with a verdict based on the evidence presented to them.
Ignore the Triggers
There are memories and instances that may evoke certain emotion—you need to avoid these triggers. Anxiety is the last thing you want, as it can lead you to think of bad things that have yet to or might not even unfold. The best thing you can do is avoid reacting when the triggers are looming over. Leave them be; they are nothing but thoughts.
Look at the Bigger Picture
Framing your mind properly means being optimistic. While it is hard to look at the bright side during this time, you have to try looking past the situation. Believe that you can transcend it eventually. Doing this will give you confidence as you face the court.
These are only some of the things that will help you control your emotions while in court. There are times when we recommend clients to consult a counsellor to discover which coping techniques work for them. Contact us today to learn more about our services.